Fall is when we need our inner-industriousness to be at peak performance. It is time to harvest and store all of the proceeds from our spring planting. Time to put away enough sustenance to last us throughout the upcoming winter season.
If you are not a gardener, you may be thinking ‘But Diane, I have no harvest to process. And I will simply purchase my ‘sustenance’ at the local supermart this winter’. I get it. This is the way the bigger part of the world turns.
We all have rules we live by. Some of us may be more cognizant of them than others. But we all have them nonetheless. You’ve heard people state them many times.
“Don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.”
“Don’t mistake making a living with making a life.”
“Get comfortable in your own skin.”
These, and several others, are all ‘life rules’ I respect. And I actually employ them pretty regularly in my own life. But they are not the ones that have had the most impact on me. You know, the ones that literally took my breath away for a few moments when I first heard them. Like really heard them.
There is something about the heat of a sunny summers day. Something that is a little hard to put into words. And yet seems to be clearly understood by both the plant and the animal kingdoms.
I like to think of it in gardening lingo. The seeds have been planted, and now it is time to just relax a bit and wait for the harvest to come. There is some maintaining to do, of course. Things will need to be watered and weeded. But, still, the next event that will require a significant bit of energy from us is the harvest.
Before we talk about what to do when you feel stuck, we should cover the definition of stuck as it pertains to this post.
It refers to those moments in time when you feel like your life isn’t really going anywhere, is going a little poorly, or is just plain crappy. It’s doesn’t pertain to the times that you are happy with life in general, and are just enjoying the status quo for a bit. Or, needless to say, to those times when LIFE IS GOOD!
One of the most beneficial things we can do for ourselves is to more closely align with the ways of Mama Nature. As her seasons change the rest of the natural world aligns with them. We humans seem to have lost touch with this phenomena over time. And it would be in our best interests to reconnect with it.
The spring season is so clearly a time of renewal and rebirth. The animals are birthing their young. They become more active as the days grow warmer. The flowers are beginning to ‘strut their stuff’. Tiny little buds are forming on the trees. And we see fresh new life popping up throughout the plant kingdom.
Making the effort to ebb and flow with the natural cycles of the seasons is paramount for good health. Our bodies are designed to follow the patterns of Nature. Even the smallest adjustments to honor these patterns just make damn good sense!
Winter is a season which calls for more quiet time, deep inner reflection, and more than the average amount of nurturing. Perhaps even a little pampering every now and again ❤️❄️❤️
Everybody wants to live a better life. It really makes no difference who they are, what they do, or what circumstances they live with every day. They want to alter their lives in a way that meets their deeper needs. They want it to be better than it is.
They want to have stronger, more stable relationships. They want to be respected, appreciated, and admired. And they want to feel that the way they’re spending their time and energy is purposeful.
Attaining these goals can seem impossible. When faced with the task, many people simply shut down intellectually, physically, and spiritually.
I used to be a little more concerned with what other people thought of me than I would have liked to admit 😉
But it seems that the times they are a changin’. Like significantly. Really very significantly.
They’ve been changing for a very long time now. I would guesstimate my evolution in this arena started 15 years ago. Just before I turned 40 years old.
While sitting with a very close friend/mentor of mine over a cup of tea in her garden she looked me purposefully in the eyes and said, “Diane, turning 40 is a truly transformational time in a woman’s life. Somehow you ‘come into your own’. You find you no longer care much about what other people think of you or your choices. You like yourself more. And what other people think just isn’t as important as it once was.”
I imagine that people who know me would say that I easily accept change. But that is far from accurate. Forcing myself to avoid resistance of change has been a coping mechanism of mine for many years now. One born from an unhealthy belief that I was unable to mold the world around me. That I had to simply accede to what life brought my way.
Embracing change did not come naturally for this girl!
It did come though. I managed to cultivate the skill (it is a skill you know), with just a little change of perspective and a whole lot of patience with myself.